I suffer from Mental Health, something you may have picked up on if you read some of my posts. I have a whole section on Mental Health and anxiety actually so you should check that out. One thing I’m used to is people saying inappropriate stuff, offensive stuff and they don’t even know it.
It’s even worse when they know what they’ve said and they don’t seem to care or they still think that they’re right. I mean what’s that all about. So I wanted to compile a list together, and turn it into a blog post.
A list that will hopefully help someone not trip up on what they’re saying and make life a little easier for themselves, and because it helps people with Mental Health out a bit so they aren’t being hurt in the process.
1, It’s not just a symptom!
I get so annoyed with people saying that I should know better. That I shouldn’t hide behind my symptoms using them as an excuse, it’s not right. I mean you wouldn’t turn round to someone in a wheelchair and tell them to walk it off and stop using the fact that they cannot walk as an excuse.
It’s pretty much the same thing, just because said symptoms are not visible doesn’t mean that they don’t exist in the first place. Don’t turn round to someone and say “you’re an adult, you should know better”. If you’re talking to someone with BPD, Aspergers or crippling paranoia and anxiety of course they’re not going to know how to act properly. Sure sometimes they might come across rude but at the end of the day they’re just trying to fit in.
2, I’m sure it will be fine in the end.
So you might think you’re helping and please don’t think I’m knocking anyone with this post because that isn’t my intention! I’m just trying to help, the fact that people turn round to me and say look on the bright side, or people have it worse DOES NOT HELP!
I mean I know people have it worse, I feel bad. That doesn’t stop me thinking and feeling the way I do and pointing it out isn’t going to help me in the slightest. All you are doing is making the person with Mental Health feel that little bit worse.
So before you tell them that actually what they’re going through isn’t that bad, other people have it worse off or tomorrow is a different day; think about what you are saying. Suffering with Mental Health is similar to being a toddler in some respects, if you know someone is struggling, talk to them and try and distract them; even if it’s bitching about the cow who sits behind you talking all the time in lecture!
So that seems like I’ve just used the last few paragraphs to moan, sorry about that. I’m not moaning. I’m trying to help. Someone with Mental Health will find it difficult in all walks of life. I have BPD and it’s difficult for me to make friends, maintain relationships and say the right thing. When someone knocks me back, that’s incredibly difficult.
Although I would feel terrible if I left this blog post there. Instead I want to give a few pointers so that people can deal with Mental Health better. I know it’s challenging when you haven’t been through Mental Health because you aren’t familiar with how it feels, so let me help.
Mental Health sucks, I said before that if a person is suffering; everything seems shite. So take their mind off it, sure some people don’t want to know but at the end of the day chatting about something tiny like that cow at work who eats your lunch might just be what they need to lift their spirits.
Food also helps and just making sure that they know you are there for them means a great deal. At the end of the day no one wants to feel alone and that’s even more so when someone is suffering from any form of Mental Health!
So there you have it. I’ve talked enough. If you want to learn more about my views, opinions and coping mechanisms when It comes to Mental Health check out my other blog posts and leave a comment!
If you feel up to it, no pressure maybe leave a little comment letting me know about some of the phrases people use that really grind your goat or make you feel terrible for days. Remember I’m here for you and if you ever need to talk, just drop me a message!
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