BPD, also known as Behavioral Personality Disorder is something that I suffer with personally. You may also hear it referred to as Emotional Personality Disorder or in short a mild form of Bipolar. I wanted to talk a little about BPD, I know you can find all the information needed on the mind charity page, I felt that it would be better to talk about it from a personal point of view.
So BPD, there are quite a few symptoms related to the condition. I’m part of a few groups throughout social media and I see the same symptoms and issues being talked about often. These are the symptoms that I wanted to address.
~ Mood Swings.
Mood swings are actually common in a lot of Mental Health Conditions, it’s a serious problem when it comes to BPD however. Moods swings can happen at any time and without warning which is the main concern. I’ve been sat in a lecture hall before and I’ve walked in feeling happy, excited and ready to learn. BAM! Half way through I’ll feel like the world is crashing down on me, everything is too much and it’s too difficult to carry on.
Of course if you don’t suffer with Mental Health and mood swings you aren’t going to be able to grasp what that feels like, this is where I like to give a little advice. Some people are going to roll with mood swings, sure if your friend turns round and say lets go get drunk, eat loads of pizza and stay up till 4am you might be up for it. However if that’s unlike the person maybe take a step back and think about it. Are they really wanting to do this or is it a mood swing, are they trying to deflect the fact that they feel terrible. Instead of rolling with it maybe offer an alternative, if they want to eat and drink go home and order a take away with a bottle of wine and chat for hours on end.
So it can be extremely difficult for people with BPD to make and maintain relationships. I don’t just mean romantically but also friendships. That might seem a little vague, trust me it is. There are so many reasons as to why this is an issue, for starters the mood swings and impulsive behavior doesn’t help in the slightest, who wants to hang around with a crazy person who one minute sings Disney songs and then wants to go sky diving?!
All second symptoms such as paranoia, depression and not having a clue how to act around people are a huge factor to this. It’s something that’s happened many times in my life and is a reason I only have a select few friends. Not because I don’t know how to act but because sometimes I can say things with the best intentions but people just don’t understand. It’s even harder for people to understand when they have no idea what BPD is and when they haven’t gone through it themselves.
Lastly this is a symptom that really does my head in. Let me explain it in a little anecdote. The other day when I left for university I had to go home twice so that I could check if the door was locked, not because I’ve ever forgotten to lock it before. The firs time I just couldn’t remember so I went back to check it wasn’t on the latch. The second time I went back was because I’d totally forgotten what happened the first time. It was like a total black out, no memory at all!
Going back to finding it difficult to maintain relationships, can you imagine being friends with someone who forgets everything all the time. The trouble with BPD as well is that if they’re going through a hard time memory loss occurs even more. I’ve had the other half get mad before because I’ve forgotten really simple things which can effect me on so many levels and kick off a whole load of other symptoms. Sure he doesn’t mean to because it’s not always easy to remember that I actually don’t remember!
So there you have it, the top three symptoms of BPD explained. I hope its informative, if not I’m sorry. If you want to know more about BPD however I would suggest checking out the Mind charity website, Mind are a charity that deal with Mental Health and raise money for causes to make people’s lives easier.
Mind have so much information on their website so if you are someone suffering from Mental Health and need help, someone who thinks they may have a Mental Health condition or someone who is looking for advice and help because they know someone with Mental Health then check out their website!
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